Confusion

I'm beginning to realize that Erikson's theory on psychosocial development is actually applicable to my life specifically. Speaking about his theory I want to emphasize his stage of intimacy vs isolation stage. No wonder it felt like hell when you actually open your heart to someone but then you realize your not the same person you were before you were with him. That circled my mind and tangled up all of the connections of my neurons that was set to make a good network to link a certain concept. Never in a million years I started to consider again the doubts of this concept which I'm not going to say explicitly. For all of you guys who understood the virtue of Erikson's stages i bet you know what I'm talking about. It seems that this concept frames the mind as if it doesn't have the central control to navigate actions from stupidity. Stupidity refers to just silly verbal conversations accompanied by strange composure which girls tend to do when they're faced with that one guy who they think is the one. I for one object this concept to ever affect my actions that could lead to stupidity. But I got to say we're not all perfect in this world, I agree that it can affect you in a certain way, but it's just not that extreme for me.