Random Thoughts

Why on earth would anyone claim that he or she is perfect? I mean hello, I hate to break it to you, no one's perfect. Whether how much you've tried to be perfect in areas you want yourself to be, but still, that one word is impossible to achieve. I mean, we all have flaws right? I don't mean to be this outspoken to those who believe that they could, but look at it this way. People make mistakes, the mistakes that they do are resemblance of how stupid we are. Hello?????? This is one statement that I am proud to say. Anyways, if you guys think that this word perfect is possible to achieve, well think again. There are some possibilities to have a great score on an exam, but as a person, perfect is a relative claim that people make base on there own perceptions. Look at it this way. If you see a person who you would like to be because he or she is ideally perfect, that won't mean anything to me because I won't be able to see what you see because your judgments are formed through random interpretations that you've made to reflect what you unconsciously want for yourself. Am I right??? Yes I am right. I bet you've had experiences where you found yourself not wanting the same things as others. So, my claims today are justifiable because a lot of people go through the same things but with slight or bigger manipulations from God. Admit it, I bet you guys wondered if you have a problem that is totally bugging you right now, you would think about how other people might solve it? or do others experience the same problems. Anyways, I know I am right again. So it is just stupid to set your goals under the word "perfect", it would just eat your beliefs on other important purposes in life that you know you've made to make your life rich. The only thing perfect in this universe is God. Allah the Almighty, yes only "Him".

Maintaining my Faith

I was struggling at first to find what its in it for me if I pray a lot. It turns out that there are a lot of things from which I can benefit from. Peacfulness is something that I have been searching for all the years of my life. I did not care about praying and such. I believed in it, but yet I did not make use of it. I once remembered someone who told me to take care of myself in and out. Everyday I wondered if I could turn back time and said, yes I will take care of myself, and thank you for caring. Appreciation is the one thing that I forgot to give to that person. I once told myself to never make decisions whenever I'm in a very emtional state, but it turned out that I couldn't keep my own statement. I have surrendered myself in situations when right now if I traced back again, I would've done things differently. Because of all of these mistakes, I keep asking myself.

Am I worthy? Am I worthy to God? Do I still have the chance to change? Am I too late?

I hinder myself from being that person who can make a difference. All of these years I thought that I couldn't have the strength to be that person who everyone look up too. I don't know if I am that person now though. I don't want to make hasty statements. It seems so arrogant to let yourself shine too much. But still what has been on my head is, is it wrong to speak up when everybody is silent?. When everybody is afraid to speak? Should I take the chance? I guess I'll never know how to answer these questions. All I know is that I try to regulate myself into an individual who knows his or her position. That's all that is important.

UAS

What do you think about manging time between a job that you took and ur getting paid for it between studying for this effing final exam? Which one would you prioritize first? Got a clue in how to out do all of these deadlines which are all coming rapidly sequentially.

mutual relations

what does mutual relation mean? does it mean that people who are in relation to other people always give benefit to one another? How do you define friends? Are they those people who will always be there for you and also those who genuinely love you for who you are? Can we not trust others who are actually close to us? Is there some sort of norm in how to create an altruistic relationship with others? How do you categorize people you helped in the past? How do you perceive your friends? Are they objects of psychological pleasure?Who do you go to when you have problems? Who is that one person who you can trust the most? These are the question which I think about every day. It has been a torture of not knowing which is right and wrong. I guess that when you have a relationship, any kind of relationship with someone, it just matters that you and him or her give benefit to each other. I suggest that before you decide on whether to make friends with someone that according to you does not fit into your own perception, please rethink about this. Because in the end we would have to look at this as something that are diverse in many ways.

Mid Semester II

Please Allah SWT.. Let us be successful in this mid test let us be the ones who can be next extraordinary generation of hope and power. Let us be the ones who can CHANGE the world....

Mitch Albom's Quotes

Mitch Albom the author of

These are just some of his quotes I've  found:

 

“The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”

“You're not a wave, you're a part of the ocean.”

“when all this started, I asked myself, 'Am I going to withdraw from the world, like most people do, or am I going to live?' I decided I am going to live-or at least try to live-the way I want, with dignity, with courage, with humor, with composure"

“If you're always battling against getting older, you're always going to be unhappy, because it's going to happen anyhow.”

“You have to work at creating your own culture.”

“Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too--even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling."

“Love lost is still love. It takes a different form, that’s all. You can’t see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it. Life has to end. Love doesn’t.”

“No life is a waste. The only time we waste is the time we spend thinking we are alone.”

“People are only mean when they're threatened, and that's what our culture does. That's what our economy does.”

“Young men go to war. Sometimes because they have to, sometimes because they want to. Always, they feel they are supposed to. This comes from the sad, layered stories of life, which over the centuries have seen courage confused with picking up arms, and cowardice confused with laying them down.”

Leona Lewis "RUN" lyrics

This is when she sang Run

 

I’ll sing it

One last time for you

Then we really have to go

You’ve been the only thing

That’s right

In all I’ve done

And I can barely look at you

But every single time I do

I know we’ll make it anywhere

Away from here

Light up, light up

As if you have a choice

Even if you cannot hear my voice

I’ll be right beside you dear

Louder louder

And we’ll run for our lives

I can hardly speak I understand

Why you

Can’t raise your voice to say

To think

I might not see those eyes

Makes it so hard not to cry

And as we say

Our long goodbye

I nearly do

Light up

Slower slower

We don’t have time for that

All I want is

To find an easier way

To get out

Of our little heads

Have heart my dear

We’re bound to be afraid

Even if

It’s just for a few days

Making up for all this mess

Good Morning

Hello and good morning to you all the bloggers out there. I am still wondering what happened to my laptop. It just completely shut down and leaaving my skype account logged in. I was completely tired after skyping with my boyfriend. So anyway, How are you? For all the ladies out there this is a day to  hang out and be wild. Your oppurtunity to find flirting adventures. LOL. Nah I'm just kidding. You don't actually have to flirt, just go and have fun because it is Saturday. This is the formula for the single women out there, SATURDAY NIGHT = LADIES NIGHT! Have you always thought about who is the person that you will think about everyday when you wake up every morning?  If you guys have given much thought into this I bet that you would have a hard time at to actually recall that person. Don't think too hard cause in the end that person will come up to your head everyday if he is the right one for you. I konw for a fact that my writing has always been about relationships. BF and GF relationships and also about friendship. To be honest, those two things are the most frequent topics in my head. I always hit this stage when I recalll these easily without haveing to give too much effort. Speaking of recallling things, this type of behavior is called Priming. Priming is a familiar word in Social Psychology. I remembered this because I studied it last night so it is still on the top of my head. So anyway, got to go now. Wait for the next post okay.

See you....

Smile you guys and greet the day!!!

What do you look for in a GUY?

For all the women out there who are still in the search for the right man. Here are a few criterias that I have listed based on the conversations that I have had with my friends. These are just some out of a whole bunch of opinions that we should all consider.

• Good looking
• Attentive
• Can afford to buy her food
• Can afford a date
• moderate modality
• not involved in unusual links that is dangerous to society
• most agree on non-smokers
• at least have moderate intelligence
• is not afraid of commitment

                                   

I bet that this is an unsatisfying list. Women are now very picky in picking a guy. Thank God that there are still people out there who are looking for a deep and meaningful relationship rather than just physical stuff. For those of you who haven't found your GUY. Keep praying and trying to be who you are. Don't ever fall for a guy who only falls for you because of what you wear. Those guys that think like that are just looking for a one night stand type of relationship. Embrace yourself. Appreciate what God has given us. We all have to find our stance in this world otherwise we would just collapse in the traps of irresponsible pricks.

Leona Lewis

What an incredible singer. You guys have got to hear her sing. I just found out that she was just a receptionist in england. Then she competed in the X factor show which is some type of American Idol in England. Anyway ,God bless her!! What an incredible voice. It made me have the goosebumps. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QTNoOkBMGM4

Leona Lewis cover

18 FEB 2010

What I realized is that you have your own self to rely own. When you're searching for strength. You have your own will power to move on and to hold on tight to the uniqueness of yourself. In this world there are full of inconsistent unwanted events. I for one have encounter it many times.

Genuine or Copied???

Reguarding all of the research that we as psychology students will do in the future, it is crucial to have the genuine books as our guide to better research. Other than that, it is for the benefit of all students who have it. Personally I would rather spend much money on books for the sake of my own stance in this major. Believing that by buying the real ones and not copies of it, will prevent myself from doing piracy. I know that for a fact that some of my friends are keeping copies but I have to hold my own wise decision because the books that we buy will help us forever throughout the college years.

REALITY CHECK

So as we all know for those of you that are now studying at University of Indonesia, it is now the time to get back to studying again. I just hope that for this second semester my grades would be much higher than before. Even though I know that it would be hard to ever think of it, but I am trying to be optimist about what I'm trying to achieve. FOR ALL OF US COLLEGE STUDENTS!! KEEP YOUR SPIRIT AS HIGH AS POSSIBLE... YOU'LL NEED IT!!!

Try and motivate yourself in a more positive way.. Think of your journey here as a gift from God and something that you owe to your parents and yourselves.!

He's coming home!

Anyway you all know that my boy is on his vacation at Malaysia. Today he's coming home. For four days I have been waiting for his arrival again in Indonesia. Now I know that Malaysia isn't not that far, but still it's hard not being able to phone someone you love right? I guess what I'm trying to say is that I FREAKIN MISS HIM!!! Today at ten o'clock he will step his foot again in Juanda airport. Since that magical week with him, I'm beginning to feel mellow dramatic. I don't know why, but I guess it's probably now I have a huge bundle of great memories with him. Much more than the year before when we were just friends. I know that maybe on the road of our long distance there would be some misunderstanding between him and I but it would be like an obstacle for us waiting to be overcome by two amazing people who are extremely in LOVE!

My Life Definition. What's yours?

This is something that I wrote for an assignment at school. I figure it has something to do with the whole theme of the blog.

My life is basically about patience, integrity, and courage. Although in the past few months I haven’t shown all these 3 words and implement in everyday life, but I always try to stick with it. I look at myself as a kind person which is selflessly willing to sacrifice my own needs for someone else. On the contrary I could also be a person whose ego can manipulate my own soul. What I see is mostly an unstable person who is trying to find the best things in life. Try to deny all the bad things that I have and try to make all the good things come on the surface. Every person has two sides of themselves which are both good side and bad side.

The good side of me is I have high tolerance in friendships and I like having to help them in all sorts of situations which are still in the boundaries of my capability. Those 2 things that are my good sides are based on the experiences that I have had in the past. When I was in elementary school I had a very hard time at making friends. They looked at me as their bank. They were friends with me whenever they wanted to buy something. Because of their reasons to get close to me I often cried whenever I got home from school. I knew that those aren’t the things that friendship should be based on. Thank God when I was in junior high I didn’t have those experiences again. Frankly I had many friends and I didn’t have troubles in socializing. I was smart and I often got many achievements. I actually had the best score for the UAN test. I felt respected and at that stage I realize that there are still many good people out there. Entering high school I learned how to be humble and be thankful. I learned how to socialize better with people, much better than junior high. Probably because my high school was a boarding school so I learned how to understand an accept people’s differences. That stage of my life I felt very ordinary but great about myself because I realized that every people have different unique values inside.

For the bad side, I often get very emotional and easily get stress. Maybe it is because every time I’m in my room alone I feel like I am the only person in this world even though out there I still know that I have many friends. Everyday I try to fight those things and thankfully now I can control myself to not be extreme at it. It is common for people to have that but for me it is really strange because I often express it by crying.

I noticed all of those things while I was still in high school but now I’m in university, University of Indonesia and taking psychology as a major. The reason why I took psychology is because I was so fascinated by Oprah Winfrey. I completely had my eyes on her when I first started watching her talk show. The way she listens to people and giving feedbacks towards every each individual interesting story on her show really showed that she cared. Like Oprah, I myself is seen by my peers as a good adviser. Most of my friends like to talk to me about their problems and when they do that I get this feeling of being worthy and trusted. So by taking psychology I want to help people not just my friends by giving them inputs and advices based on knowledgeable opinions. Other than that the other purpose of taking this major is I want to know why my friends in elementary school behaved like that (explained in paragraph one). It is a mystery for me and I want to find the reasons of their behavior and my feedback to them.

In the future, I would love to have a talk show like Oprah Winfrey and have all the interesting guests which have different and unique stories. Also, I am hoping to open a counseling service at my own home. I want to be that person that could help individuals build their potentials because I believe that everybody has something inside that they can offer to the world.

Of course to reach all of the things above I would face many problems. What I usually and will do is I first try to solve it on my own. When the problems get tougher then I would ask for other people’s opinions. Their opinions then are filtered in my mind. After that I would try to make a conclusion of what they have given me. Because I am an extrovert person I often ask for other people’s help and recognition. I often get nervous and anxious if I can’t solve my own problem or sometimes runaway from it and try to not think and avoid it.

All the people in the world have different explanation about themselves. For me, all of the things that I have written above are about my whole self. No pretends and no lies.

a boat of friendship

What do you look for in a friend? Is it their popularity? Status? None of those things should come to mind when talking about having a friend.
How to become a friend for someone.

• Find a guy or a girl
• Be friends
• start by giving a simple question
• start again by introducing your school what you like
• After that find out if you and him or her have anything in common
• If you do then try to dig deep into that
• After a few conversations you willl find yourselves in a position where you are listening to what they have to say
• Listen intently
• Do not interrupt
• Being a good friend could begin where both of you listen to eachother
• After that then comes the sharing part. At this step you and your friend would talk about personal stuff about eachother. Most of it are problems that occur daily.

At the deepest stage of your relationship with your friend, you should find yourself as a more sacrificing person. By doing that your friend will know that you love them. A real friend does not leave you behind when you are in pain. A real friend does not lie to you when lying is needed the most to cure their heart. A real friend is someone who gets you in the most random ways.

My boy's Vacation.

Just now my boy has got on the plane and he is headed of to malaysia. He will be gone for four days to be exact. I guess I'll have to survive without his phonecalls and text messages that usually fill my day. The idea of him and I being in two different countries doesn't worry me that much cause the country is close to Indonesia. I'm just preparing for the worst when I continue my studies in Queensland, now that worries me the most. I just hope that someday there will be a time where him and I would be in the same city for a long period of time.

I have a question

Anyway since I'm new at using this sort of technology, I hope that the dullness of my blog would be accepted on good terms. I have no idea on how to edit the background and how to put pictures in it. I want to share loads to all of you. But I think it is going to be a while for me to actually have a clear point of view in using this.

LDR

Long Distance relationships is a struggling process between two people who have special feelings for each other. other than that it invovles lots of trust and patients. How can this type of relationship work?
1. What you need first is a bowl full of trust.
2. You would need a decent guy to begin with
3. Understanding about the needs of you and your guy
4. An equipment for communicating at a long distance
5. The tendency to tolerate mistakes
6. Time
7. energy
8. Money
According to the list above, some people might not agree with some of the things that i have put down. They may have somethings that I have not put down that could support there own relationships. Anyway, speaking of relationships, I always thought that every single couple in this world doesn't have the exact problem as other problems. The list above are just some of the things that I use to make my relationship going. It's sort of a general view of what couple might need to have to survive it.
For the girls, if you have a boyfriend that is a superstar at his new place, start to get curious about what he does. Because it can lead to girls liking him more that just friends and it may cause unwanted affairs.
For the boys are almost the same. But unfortunately based on my friend's experience it is more likely that if the girl is the superstar, it wouldn't pretty much lead to damage of the relationship.