REALITY CHECK

So as we all know for those of you that are now studying at University of Indonesia, it is now the time to get back to studying again. I just hope that for this second semester my grades would be much higher than before. Even though I know that it would be hard to ever think of it, but I am trying to be optimist about what I'm trying to achieve. FOR ALL OF US COLLEGE STUDENTS!! KEEP YOUR SPIRIT AS HIGH AS POSSIBLE... YOU'LL NEED IT!!!

Try and motivate yourself in a more positive way.. Think of your journey here as a gift from God and something that you owe to your parents and yourselves.!

He's coming home!

Anyway you all know that my boy is on his vacation at Malaysia. Today he's coming home. For four days I have been waiting for his arrival again in Indonesia. Now I know that Malaysia isn't not that far, but still it's hard not being able to phone someone you love right? I guess what I'm trying to say is that I FREAKIN MISS HIM!!! Today at ten o'clock he will step his foot again in Juanda airport. Since that magical week with him, I'm beginning to feel mellow dramatic. I don't know why, but I guess it's probably now I have a huge bundle of great memories with him. Much more than the year before when we were just friends. I know that maybe on the road of our long distance there would be some misunderstanding between him and I but it would be like an obstacle for us waiting to be overcome by two amazing people who are extremely in LOVE!

My Life Definition. What's yours?

This is something that I wrote for an assignment at school. I figure it has something to do with the whole theme of the blog.

My life is basically about patience, integrity, and courage. Although in the past few months I haven’t shown all these 3 words and implement in everyday life, but I always try to stick with it. I look at myself as a kind person which is selflessly willing to sacrifice my own needs for someone else. On the contrary I could also be a person whose ego can manipulate my own soul. What I see is mostly an unstable person who is trying to find the best things in life. Try to deny all the bad things that I have and try to make all the good things come on the surface. Every person has two sides of themselves which are both good side and bad side.

The good side of me is I have high tolerance in friendships and I like having to help them in all sorts of situations which are still in the boundaries of my capability. Those 2 things that are my good sides are based on the experiences that I have had in the past. When I was in elementary school I had a very hard time at making friends. They looked at me as their bank. They were friends with me whenever they wanted to buy something. Because of their reasons to get close to me I often cried whenever I got home from school. I knew that those aren’t the things that friendship should be based on. Thank God when I was in junior high I didn’t have those experiences again. Frankly I had many friends and I didn’t have troubles in socializing. I was smart and I often got many achievements. I actually had the best score for the UAN test. I felt respected and at that stage I realize that there are still many good people out there. Entering high school I learned how to be humble and be thankful. I learned how to socialize better with people, much better than junior high. Probably because my high school was a boarding school so I learned how to understand an accept people’s differences. That stage of my life I felt very ordinary but great about myself because I realized that every people have different unique values inside.

For the bad side, I often get very emotional and easily get stress. Maybe it is because every time I’m in my room alone I feel like I am the only person in this world even though out there I still know that I have many friends. Everyday I try to fight those things and thankfully now I can control myself to not be extreme at it. It is common for people to have that but for me it is really strange because I often express it by crying.

I noticed all of those things while I was still in high school but now I’m in university, University of Indonesia and taking psychology as a major. The reason why I took psychology is because I was so fascinated by Oprah Winfrey. I completely had my eyes on her when I first started watching her talk show. The way she listens to people and giving feedbacks towards every each individual interesting story on her show really showed that she cared. Like Oprah, I myself is seen by my peers as a good adviser. Most of my friends like to talk to me about their problems and when they do that I get this feeling of being worthy and trusted. So by taking psychology I want to help people not just my friends by giving them inputs and advices based on knowledgeable opinions. Other than that the other purpose of taking this major is I want to know why my friends in elementary school behaved like that (explained in paragraph one). It is a mystery for me and I want to find the reasons of their behavior and my feedback to them.

In the future, I would love to have a talk show like Oprah Winfrey and have all the interesting guests which have different and unique stories. Also, I am hoping to open a counseling service at my own home. I want to be that person that could help individuals build their potentials because I believe that everybody has something inside that they can offer to the world.

Of course to reach all of the things above I would face many problems. What I usually and will do is I first try to solve it on my own. When the problems get tougher then I would ask for other people’s opinions. Their opinions then are filtered in my mind. After that I would try to make a conclusion of what they have given me. Because I am an extrovert person I often ask for other people’s help and recognition. I often get nervous and anxious if I can’t solve my own problem or sometimes runaway from it and try to not think and avoid it.

All the people in the world have different explanation about themselves. For me, all of the things that I have written above are about my whole self. No pretends and no lies.

a boat of friendship

What do you look for in a friend? Is it their popularity? Status? None of those things should come to mind when talking about having a friend.
How to become a friend for someone.

• Find a guy or a girl
• Be friends
• start by giving a simple question
• start again by introducing your school what you like
• After that find out if you and him or her have anything in common
• If you do then try to dig deep into that
• After a few conversations you willl find yourselves in a position where you are listening to what they have to say
• Listen intently
• Do not interrupt
• Being a good friend could begin where both of you listen to eachother
• After that then comes the sharing part. At this step you and your friend would talk about personal stuff about eachother. Most of it are problems that occur daily.

At the deepest stage of your relationship with your friend, you should find yourself as a more sacrificing person. By doing that your friend will know that you love them. A real friend does not leave you behind when you are in pain. A real friend does not lie to you when lying is needed the most to cure their heart. A real friend is someone who gets you in the most random ways.

My boy's Vacation.

Just now my boy has got on the plane and he is headed of to malaysia. He will be gone for four days to be exact. I guess I'll have to survive without his phonecalls and text messages that usually fill my day. The idea of him and I being in two different countries doesn't worry me that much cause the country is close to Indonesia. I'm just preparing for the worst when I continue my studies in Queensland, now that worries me the most. I just hope that someday there will be a time where him and I would be in the same city for a long period of time.

I have a question

Anyway since I'm new at using this sort of technology, I hope that the dullness of my blog would be accepted on good terms. I have no idea on how to edit the background and how to put pictures in it. I want to share loads to all of you. But I think it is going to be a while for me to actually have a clear point of view in using this.

LDR

Long Distance relationships is a struggling process between two people who have special feelings for each other. other than that it invovles lots of trust and patients. How can this type of relationship work?
1. What you need first is a bowl full of trust.
2. You would need a decent guy to begin with
3. Understanding about the needs of you and your guy
4. An equipment for communicating at a long distance
5. The tendency to tolerate mistakes
6. Time
7. energy
8. Money
According to the list above, some people might not agree with some of the things that i have put down. They may have somethings that I have not put down that could support there own relationships. Anyway, speaking of relationships, I always thought that every single couple in this world doesn't have the exact problem as other problems. The list above are just some of the things that I use to make my relationship going. It's sort of a general view of what couple might need to have to survive it.
For the girls, if you have a boyfriend that is a superstar at his new place, start to get curious about what he does. Because it can lead to girls liking him more that just friends and it may cause unwanted affairs.
For the boys are almost the same. But unfortunately based on my friend's experience it is more likely that if the girl is the superstar, it wouldn't pretty much lead to damage of the relationship.